Well, a VERY full day of child-care and entertainment today. We went to play at one of those padded-cell-type places this morning and were there at 9:30 – after a few hours, I came home with Lara and a couple of other girls and they played solid until 3:30 (one of them left) and them until nearly six (the second one went home for dinner). Now, in the main they had a spiffing time, but there was a major tantrum in the middle of it all (from Lara) and I gained quite an insight into what actually goes on at school.
The main nub, it seems, is that Ruby and Lara have developed a semi-symbiotic relationship for the moment. Ruby has an intense need to impose her will and lead, and Lara (as ever) is in need of being led – these are the two that their teacher described as ‘being in love or something’ – totally inseparable as far as he’s concerned. However, I found out for the first time today that Lara says that two of her closest friends (Lillian and Ruby) ‘ignore’ her in the playground – she’s very upset by it. Now, she’s very much on a learning curve with the whole friendship thing and no doubt leaves a lot to be desired but it doesn’t take a genius to see what’s happening. Ruby’s got issues that make her need to exert her will (different story), Lillian is quiet and afraid of isolation, Lara’s besotted with the both of them and doesn’t understand a thing. Which all sounds very negative but actually it’s all a huge leap forward. One – the girls are (without exception) at heart all lovely, two – the Non has actually been able to put her problems into words and talk about things. For such a complex issue, utterly unimaginable a few months back. As I said, doesn’t sound positive but I’m very encouraged by the revelations… they’re on a totally different scale of social interaction than we would previously have expected. At this rate of climb she’ll be Miss Congeniality by Year 1… in fact she would be already if she knew how to deal with the positive attention coming her way but she’s learning fast. What more can one ask.
In the meantime, they climbed about the place and ate ice-cream and snacks at the padded-cell place, then came back and danced madly and ate lunch, played up, played down, even played outside on the little secluded drive-way that leads to the garage with the scooters and bouncy things. Drew pictures, glued things, ate biscuits, painted, read stories, you name it. Slightly–big sigh of relief… tomorrow she’s happy to have a ‘mummy and non’ day – we’ll do work in the morning and all being well I’ll take her to ‘splash zone’ in the afternoon - I can’t cope with more than one child in the water with confidence in any case, the age they are (even if they can officially ‘swim’ – one needs to be so careful). We’re very much looking forward to Daddy coming home on Thursday evening, but possibly a bit of enforced mummy-and-non time is no bad thing… Daddy is so very, very lovely to play with perhaps a few lesser things get buried. The Non is looking forward to it so much I think she was envisaging a sort of welcome-home party… not sure what’s to be involved in her view, perhaps party streamers and loud noises. Possibly candles.
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Lovely all round! Is she having fun or what- and thanks for the pics at last, my aren't they all so big, big girls by now- the face painting has reached the heights of professionalism, if you ever want a quick job- I would be lining up for a turn, mark my words- lovely. And so much info from her and reciprocation in feelings/what happened during the day, that is SUCH a relief to actually get it in the end, Leo started just at about that age I guess, I think that relatively slow starters such as her and Leo at it suddenly pick up and one is amazed what a couple of months can be. ALl in all you seem to be having a lovely kiddie time,hope that Ian comes back safe and sound and not too tired today, and that you all have daddy time. I know, I miss it too these days, sometimes with me it's always such a go go go and let's this and that, it's a lot more relaxed when there are two around.
ReplyDeleteBeen absent of late since I did one of my Pieface stupidities last week- stupid, wanting to play with Leo full hand, got out my roller skates trying to demonstrate how it could be fun to do it together- of course took Nea on foot off to the romp, went rather far, smaller child started crying she couldn't walk anymore and picked her up with skates on pretending I was a Star Wars character and boom- fell down so hard and to protect her threw myself backwards, of course it's only the pie and attained some sort of whiplash like stuff, just only got home, next 3 days in fever and neck and head ready to burst, could hardly drive and went around fearing OMG if I have to go to the doctors what's going to happen with a towel and ice pack tied around my neck; thankfully yesterday it seems to have at last turned for the better and can now actually function somewhat; oh well. Leo was the smartest of all, came up and gave me a firm warning "that's why mummy I said skating was really dangerous and I think that now, we can take our skates, put them in the garage and walk around safely on shoes like were 'posed to"- to which sanity I was glad to comply to. I said Leo, Y'know what, I learn from you too every day.
Is at camp these two weeks so although I enjoyed having him around, it is a bit more respite of not having to rush around from placeto place the whole time and went to normal story time at library this morning with Nea after a while, it's quite cold for July over here and it's been raining for 3 days- all very strange, but I like it, at least one doesn't have to go worrying about sunscreen and whatnots the whole day- and kids sleep better.
Very, very boring comment but there it is, and the pics were lovely, thank you SO MUCH!
Lots of love all round and a belated happy birthday to Camel,
XOXOXOXOS
Well, I must sayI feel I want to delete both blog and Pie’s comment for the 6th July and try and forget them if possible. That poor Pie must have had a real whack falling backwards with a child in her arms. I do hope she gets better completely and very quickly not only because she is needed and everybody in the family relies on her but because that sounds really very very painful.
ReplyDeleteAnd as for my darling Non being left out by what she considers her best friends is so sad that I have not stopped thinking about it and being upset since I read it. It is really most unfortunate that it should happen just now when she is ready to mix and play with others. I am sure she will get extra cuddling from her mummy and daddy when he gets back tonight. Hope she prepares a good home coming for him, that will cheer everybody up.
Lots of love to all and many many kisses to my Littles.
Woofie